Studies show that two people who are going through a divorce are rarely “on the same page” — even when it comes to the process of grieving.
To those of us who are divorce experts, it is no surprise that a couple who has split up would find themselves at different stages of the grieving process at different times. After all, the person who initiates the breakup has typically thought about it well in advance. By the time the decision has been made and the divorce papers are filed, she or he had plenty of time to grieve and has already come to the point of acceptance. However, this is not the case for the other spouse, who very often is taken completely by surprise. That person is at the beginning of the grief process, and it will take him/her longer to work through the emotions that are a normal part of any divorce.
But please keep in mind that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. For now, take it one day at a time. If you need help, find a good counselor. Life can, and will, be good again.
This song, “Breakeven” by The Script, perfectly describes the feelings of the partner who has been “left behind” . . .
Gary J. Frank is a Family Law Attorney, a litigator, and a mediator with over thirty years of experience in dealing with divorce, paternity, custody, and parenting issues. For many years he acted as a Judge Pro Tempore in the Maricopa County Superior Court, which gave him an insight into the inner workings of the courts that many attorneys lack. In addition to representing Family Law clients in litigation, we are also willing to help people by working with them on a Limited-Scope or Consultation-Only basis. Our office is located in the Biltmore area of central Phoenix, with satellite offices in Scottsdale and Paradise Valley, Arizona. We can be reached by telephone (602-383-3610); or by email at [email protected] You can also reach us through our website at www.garyfranklaw.com. If you are in need of a consultation regarding any area of Family Law, contact us today. We’d be happy to help.